I have two daughters. They are as opposite as they can be. One born fair and blonde and the other dark and brunette. One has the big job, big house, great kids and a military husband. The other is looking for a job, content living in small spaces, great kids and has a Geek Squad husband. One wants perfection all the time while the other goes with the flow. How can two children made from the same parents be so different? This has been a question of mine almost since they were born.
The problem now is that their differences are causing havoc between them. Not all the time, but since last year, it has been strained. One feels things should be done a certain way and not take chances while the other takes things as they come and is willing to step out of her comfort zone. I know as adults they will have their differences but it sometimes hurts to see them unable to talk to each other because of something one said to the other; and, especially, when it was a foolish comment.
Why am I so sensitive about this? I can tell you in just a few short words. I'm an only. I didn't grow up with brothers or sisters to talk to, to play with or tell secrets to. I talked to friends at school, my grandmother or just to God. Having a sibling is something I wanted, but not sure if my mom wanted more children. As time passed, I knew it wasn't going to happen so I resigned myself to the fact and went about making friends and keeping those friends in my life.
I want my daughters to realize what a gift they have in each other. When the time comes, they will have each other to lean should something happen to me or their dad. My husband was my strength when my dad passed away, same with my grandparents. And, I can't leave out my friend, Dave who has been part of my life since I was a toddler and the closest thing I have to a brother. He's the one I can call in the middle of the night should I need him. That is the meaning of a true friend.
Girls, if you read this, please know that I love you both so much and it makes my heart hurt when you fight, don't respect each others feelings and don't talk for days. You both have wonderful families, great children and husbands who love you. These are all wonderful gifts but your first gift is to each other. I'm not saying you won't have differences, but you need to learn that it is okay to not have the same direction in life, not have the same hopes and dreams and to be different from each other whilie still loving each other with all your heart. You will always be sisters and no one can take that away from you.
There are opposites in everyone's life. Mine just happen to be the most precious gifts I have been given, my daughters Jenny and Leanna. I love you.
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